Giving her some economic truth: dating supply and demand
January 13, 2010 by ABDada · Leave a Comment
When you’re involved in financial decisions, there’s reality to every decision: supply and demand. If you want the latest electronic gadget that everyone wants, there’s going to be a lot of demand and not a lot of supply. This causes prices to skyrocket. If a company makes a billion pencils that no one wants, there’s a big supply and no demand: prices fall.
In dating, supply and demand have the same pressures on the economic value of actions in any relationship. We don’t want what we can get anywhere, we want what is in low supply out there, but in high demand by us.
For women, their words and Ladyjargon usually bring confusion to the man trying to figure out what she wants. I’ll make it simple on you to figure it out: she doesn’t have a high demand for things other guys are happy to supply to her. When you give her a supply of things she is in high demand for, you’ll skyrocket her to having an A-level desire grade towards you.
Think about all the things you WANT to tell a woman or do for a woman, and then think again if other guys would do the same. Does every guy tell a pretty gal that she’s beautiful? Does every guy who meets a fantastic woman want to be the first one to say “I love you”? Does every guy shovel money at her, take her to the fanciest restaurants, and want to spend every waking moment with her?
If so, you’re not going to be the one fulfilling something that she isn’t wanting in her life, that other men are happy to waste their time doing.
Simple compliments like “You’re beautiful” or “you look so sexy tonight” are wasted effort. Once you start puking that garbage, she’ll know that she owns you. The minute you tell a woman who has spent 2 minutes getting her clothes on and her makeup together that she’s beautiful, she knows she won’t have to work hard for compliments in the future. You failed her, and you failed yourself. You want your woman to be excited to see you, to go out of her want to look nice and attract you, right? There’s no point in complimenting her repeatedly.
When you share your feelings verbally, she also gets an extra point on her column towards winning the game towards ownership. When she knows she owns you, her desire grade level plummets. The best way for a man to share his feelings for a woman is by taking time to plan incredible dates, by going out on those dates and giving her your full attention, by listening to her rather than speaking over her, and by showing her your physical desire by kissing her when she gives you the signals that she wants to be kissed.
When an average chicken-man is with a woman, he won’t keep his paws off of her. A man touching a woman is a quick way for her to confirm ownership. That same chicken-man will fill in lulls in conversation with compliments; the hawk-man won’t have lulls in conversation because he’ll be asking her questions about things that she’s mentioned, even if they seem unimportant to him.
You don’t need to splurge on a date: any man can save up $150 for a big dinner and make reservations. How about planning an exciting date that doesn’t leave your wallet melting? Find out what she likes to do for fun besides eating lobster and drinking fine wine and going to expensive concerts. Does she like pool or bowling? Don’t do that — how about finding what else she might like that she hasn’t tried before? Take her out to 5 different bars that you’ve already scoped out, bars with pinball machines or an old version of Miss Pac-Man. Share a beer at each one, and bounce to the one when that single glass of brew is empty.
What about focusing a date on seeing things from different perspectives? One of my favorite dates revolved around life music, but it wasn’t about going to one venue and seeing 3 loud bands and not getting any input from the woman I was with. Instead, I took her to a (quiet) blues concert in the sticks, then we jumped to a piano recital to a church and we finished the night by going to a loud pub to hear the headlining band. Throughout the date I was able to gauge her interest, listen to her talk about what she liked or hated, and kept her excited because we were always on the move.
What about movie night? Does going to a dark and quiet theater to sit next to a woman you can’t talk to or read visually really sound appealing? If it’s time for a movie, how about taking her to a DVD store and letting her pick out a movie or two? You have a couch and a TV and a DVD player, right?
When it comes to bringing value to a dating relationship, we have to look at the laws of supply and demand. If you’re going to perform an action or say a phrase, think quick: is this something any other guy can do, will do? If so, don’t do it. Think about an action or an activity that is rare. Don’t be the one jumping on her for a kiss when you’re playing pool; instead, send her a look of desire and see if she comes to you. All it takes is a stare and a smile that you steal back immediately as you focus on hitting that cue ball. Don’t stare and smile and stay that way, give her a taste of your desire through actions, and let her come to you.
Women love the chase, they love knowing that they’re not owning a man and that the man is staying their own person. Don’t fall into traps with flowers sent to work or dates to boring but expensive restaurants. Don’t compliment her unless she’s really gone out of her way. The best compliment to a woman is to notice that her hair was cut or colored, that she’s wearing clothes that are outside of her usual attire. Notice the new, but don’t compliment the usual. She’ll be excited for you, feel intrigue and mystery about why you treat her so differently.
If you act like every other man that was in her life before you, you’ll join them in the breakup club when she’s moved on to a new guy who is fresh and exciting, who she doesn’t yet own. Yet.
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