The Domestic Wingman
January 8, 2010 by ABDada · Leave a Comment
I’ve always said it to men who are back in the dating game again: always have two people in your life before you add a girlfriend (or three): a friend and a domestic wingman. The friend is someone you like to spend time with, someone you can see on a regular basis, weekly preferably. I’ll get into the reasons why a good friend is important before you date in a future article.
The domestic wingman is something that no other relationship or dating expert will tell you about. Most people don’t even consider the role as something really important in your steps towards dating someone else. They’re not just important for a first date, they’re important for a 50th date. The best part about a domestic wingman is that you can be their domestic wingman, too. A bar-and-club wingman could be the guy who steals all the gals you find interest in. They’re dangerous. The domestic wingman is not about going out and watching your back or pointing out what lovely ladies are staring at you from across the bartop.
What is a domestic wingman? Quite simply, they’re pretty much around to do what your mother would tell you to do before a date. They’re the ones who will check your apartment or home for cleanliness from a neutral perspective; they’ll even check your car for dangerous items or smells. If they’re local, they may be the ones who tell you that your beard is too ragged or your hair needs a trim. They’ll tell you that your nails are longer than a female hand model’s, or remind you that you’re looking a little heavy after your Thanksgiving-and-Christmas dinner.
Finding a domestic wingman isn’t easy. Males don’t want to think they need the support of another guy for things they’re bad at. We think we can do it all ourselves, and I wish that was the case. Proposing the idea to another man sounds really ridiculous, and in reality you’ll likely hear quite a bit of laughter and denial before you find the guy that says “Hell yeah, that’s what I need, too!”
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