Chicken
As I mentioned in <a href=”http://beaman.unanimocracy.com/2006/02/03/what-is-a-man/”>”What is a Man”</a>, the most common form of Man is the chicken. I honestly believe that 4 out of 5 in the U.S. fall into this category. I myself was within this group for the first 16-17 years of my life.
How do you know if you are, too?
Do you have female friends who are “just friends”? Do you tend to take orders at your place of employ and rarely give orders? Do you always accept a price for a product or service and never haggle? Do you tend to believe what you are told and rarely question the desires of others?
In terms of dating, being the chicken is almost as bad as being the vulture. This type of Man often hears “Why can’t my boyfriend be just like you?” or “I won’t date you as I don’t want to ruin our friendship.” Ouch. If you’ve heard these lines, you’re there, friend.
As I’ve previously mentioned, all relationships that are to be considered successful can be rated a success when one simple fact is met: both parties walk away from each relationship transaction with a personal profit. Profit does not mean financial profit, it could be emotional, spiritual, financial or physical. A grandparent shares joy with a grandchild — they both profit in the enhanced emotional outcome. But if a grandparent has to put up with a pure evil grandchild, the transaction might not be profitable for the grandparent in any way. This is how family relationships fall apart — one party invests (time, emotions, money) and the other party takes advantage.
The chicken-Man seem to always be at the disadvantage, and they constantly try to convince themselves that they’re happier because they’re willing to give instead of take. The biggest myth I think we see in male society is that it is wrong to walk away ahead from any transaction — we have to accept every price, give rather than receive and put up with bad managers, bad girlfriends and bad customer service. When we watch movies or television, the average Man on TV is the epitome of a chicken-Man, and they’re always successful. The sweet guy gets the girl in the end, the nice guy becomes the boss, the gentle guy beats the evil villain. This is not how life works, though, as the sweet guy ends up alone on Friday night, the nice guy stays the employee and the gentle guy gets walked all over and send home packing.
Breaking yourself of the chicken moniker is actually a very easy process, one that requires gauging what would make every relationship transaction profitable for you — and profitable for the other party. The big problem is figuring out what the other party really needs instead of what they say they need. Just as a car dealer won’t show you his true invoice price, you have to know what every person you’re dealing with really wants and needs. When it comes to women, their secret desire is a complete 180 from what you’ve been told all your life.
As I mentioned in the Man definition, the most common form of Man is the chicken. I honestly believe that 4 out of 5 in the U.S. fall into this category. I myself was within this group for the first 16-17 years of my life.
How do you know if you are, too?
Do you have female friends who are “just friends”? Do you tend to take orders at your place of employ and rarely give orders? Do you always accept a price for a product or service and never haggle? Do you tend to believe what you are told and rarely question the desires of others?
In terms of dating, being the chicken is almost as bad as being the vulture. This type of Man often hears “Why can’t my boyfriend be just like you?” or “I won’t date you as I don’t want to ruin our friendship.” Ouch. If you’ve heard these lines, you’re there, friend.
As I’ve previously mentioned, all relationships that are to be considered successful can be rated a success when one simple fact is met: both parties walk away from each relationship transaction with a personal profit. Profit does not mean financial profit, it could be emotional, spiritual, financial or physical. A grandparent shares joy with a grandchild — they both profit in the enhanced emotional outcome. But if a grandparent has to put up with a pure evil grandchild, the transaction might not be profitable for the grandparent in any way. This is how family relationships fall apart — one party invests (time, emotions, money) and the other party takes advantage.
The chicken-Man seem to always be at the disadvantage, and they constantly try to convince themselves that they’re happier because they’re willing to give instead of take. The biggest myth I think we see in male society is that it is wrong to walk away ahead from any transaction — we have to accept every price, give rather than receive and put up with bad managers, bad girlfriends and bad customer service. When we watch movies or television, the average Man on TV is the epitome of a chicken-Man, and they’re always successful. The sweet guy gets the girl in the end, the nice guy becomes the boss, the gentle guy beats the evil villain. This is not how life works, though, as the sweet guy ends up alone on Friday night, the nice guy stays the employee and the gentle guy gets walked all over and send home packing.
Breaking yourself of the chicken moniker is actually a very easy process, one that requires gauging what would make every relationship transaction profitable for you — and profitable for the other party. The big problem is figuring out what the other party really needs instead of what they say they need. Just as a car dealer won’t show you his true invoice price, you have to know what every person you’re dealing with really wants and needs. When it comes to women, their secret desire is a complete 180 from what you’ve been told all your life.
Related posts:
- Hawk Virtue #1: Determination
- Man
- Hawk
- When you’re hurt, don’t threaten to end a relationship
- Vulture
