Alpha, Beta and Omega Males: WRONG.
May 25, 2011 by ABDada · Leave a Comment
With the growth in traffic to the PUA websites by hundreds of thousands of males (and probably even more females), the use of the terms Alpha and Beta (and even Omega) when it comes to males is becoming part of every day discussion I have with ladies and gents all over the world. A day doesn’t go by that I don’t hear someone say “He’s such a Beta.”
I even find myself falling into that game by using those terms, and I don’t even mean to. It’s time to stop; the only way we can do that is to review why those terms are wrong, and what terms are correct.
First of all, let’s define the terms Alpha, Beta and Omega when it comes to males:
Alpha: The Alpha male is the strong and confident guy who doesn’t take crap from anyone. He’s set in his ways, knows his goals, and goes after them as long as they’re possible. No one walks over the Alpha. He’s coy and mysterious, he’s up for a challenge if he can see a finish line, and he’s cocky to the strong-willed and intimidating to the weak-willed. I would estimate that 5% of males are true born Alphas.
Beta: The Beta is a door mat more often than not. He doesn’t know how to say no to anyone in his life, and he’s likely to drop what he’s doing to take care of someone else’s needs even if he’s bad at it. He doesn’t hold his ladies to a high standard. Probably 75% of males fall into the Beta camp.
Omega: The lowest of the low of the Beta group, the Omega is out of shape, has no money and no prospect for stability, probably hasn’t had a relationship or sex in years, and has no problem with his life as it is. Based on simple deduction of reviewing the number of Alpha and Beta males I meet in day-to-day travels, the Omegas total around 20% of males.
You absolutely CAN put any male into any of these groups. Sometimes guys on the border might be Alphas with Beta qualities, or Betas with Alpha qualities, but you can also look at the color Yellow Green and Green Yellow and understand that one is still mostly green and one is still mostly yellow. The issue isn’t about defining a male into one of these groups, it’s about defining a male as to what his future prospects are.
I threw out the Alpha/Beta/Omega definitions years ago when I came up with my own terms. Alpha/Beta/Omega is a ladder, with Alphas at the top and Omegas at the bottom. It’s not a very good definition because it doesn’t tell you what the male wants in the future and where he’s heading, it only defines what he is and wants right now. My terms are different: Hawk, Chicken, Vulture.
It’s not too difficult to connect the Alpha/Beta/Omega group labels to the Hawk/Chicken/Vulture ones. Chickens are always either Beta or Omega. Hawks and Vultures are Alphas, for sure, but Vultures also have some Beta qualities when you take them out of their strongest environment (say a bar or a party). The defining traits that separate the Hawk from the Vulture are easy to separate: the Vulture is out for one short term thing right now (typically, non-long-term sex) whereas the Hawk has determination for what he wants in the long term.
The Vulture is not too caring about a woman’s needs long term or short term, and uses game playing tactics he’s learned through knowledge of the typical female mind’s shortcomings to get what he wants right away. The Hawk, on the other hand, knows what his needs are and puts them first, but is willing to barter for her needs if he knows he can take care of them. The Vulture is willing to throw away a woman regardless of her Desire Grade Level because he knows she’ll only really be interested for a short period of time: game tactics have the effect of giving a Vulture an A Desire Grade Level right away, but it can quickly fall apart when she realizes he’s got nothing to offer her but mind games. The Hawk knows he should only date women with a B or higher Desire Grade Level, and he can keep her there by sticking to being the driven and likable guy that he is.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of calling a guy an Alpha, Beta or Omega, but what does it really tell you? Does it give you information about if the guy is trustworthy, liked by his peers, appreciated by his customers, loved by his family, and given a pretty good review even by his ex-girlfriends? No. They’re all useless terms to use. That’s why I’m moving forward now by sticking to the terms I invented many years ago, and I hope you’ll join me in it as well. There are 3 types of men: Hawks, Vultures and Chickens. Use those terms and let’s put the Greek letters to rest once and for all.
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