She wants to see you again! HALT.

So you’ve gone on a great first date, or maybe even a few dates.  You’ve followed all the rules without playing games: you delivered curiosity for her life, you’ve figured out that she has a high desire grade level towards you, she’s not pitching tentative dates to you but solid ones, it’s obvious that she [...]

Invited to a public event? Just say no.

A regular reader told me about something that happened to him recently:
A woman I dated previously seemed to be interested in me again, and she invited me to a public event she was hosting.  I decided to go, but tried to be more determined in making sure that she didn’t take me for granted.  I [...]

Turning the cheek from a kiss: dealbreaker?

A regular Facebook reader, Phil, tells me about a first date he recently had:
I met a woman for a first date coffee.  She gave me all the good signs: touching my arm, flipping her hair, great eye contact.  After the coffee date, she proposed getting a drink closer to where she lives, and I accepted. [...]

Asking about her dating and sexual history

I’ve been on a lot of dates in my life, first dates, second dates, 50th dates.  I’ve been married unsuccessfully (due to breaking all my own rules!), I’ve had amazing long term relationships and wonderful spring flings.  Something that always amazes me, even about myself, is how curious men can be about the past relationships [...]

You like her too much

An interesting private message hit my Facebook today from someone who is starting to read this site:
I recently started dating a woman and I can’t keep my mind off of her.  I don’t think she likes me as much as I like her.  What is the right thing to do?
Maybe you’re in the same boat. [...]

The first date, coffee or tea

When you’ve met someone, in real life, online or a blind date through friends, the most important things you want to do on a first date is to gauge her initial desire grade towards you.  A first date is not about learning much about her, but about seeing if she likes you.  The fact that [...]

Giving her some economic truth: dating supply and demand

When you’re involved in financial decisions, there’s reality to every decision: supply and demand.  If you want the latest electronic gadget that everyone wants, there’s going to be a lot of demand and not a lot of supply.  This causes prices to skyrocket.  If a company makes a billion pencils that no one wants, there’s [...]

Does she like you enough?

There’s a weird issue that separates men and women in dating: the trigger that causes one or the other to end the relationship.  Most relationship experts will tell you that the biggest triggers to a breakup are:

Lying
Cheating
Lack of attention
Moving too fast/too slow
Loss of attraction

Never accept tentative dates

Even though I hold to this hard rule most of the time, I still fall victim to letting my guard down and getting hurt, even before a relationship has a chance to stand on its own. It’s a rule that I reinforce all the time with men asking for help in dating: never accept [...]