Smiling and finishing last: a primer

Recent headline news around the web are pointing to a research paper titled “Happy Guys Finish Last: The Impact of Emotion Expressions on Sexual Attraction” by Jessica L. Tracy and Alec T. Beall of the University of British Columbia.  The pair of researchers concluded that women gauge sexual attraction more from a guy who is showing a somber, [...]

A guy’s POSITIVE guide to approaching women

A friend of mine who is a sociology Ph.D student and a good friend (who also happens to be a female I trust and admire) posted a link to an article over a year old titled “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced“. Written by Phaedra Starling (nom de [...]

Smile more, talk less

Everyone has failed relationships — some ends come sooner than others, but as I always say: “if you want a big reward, you have to take a big risk.”  The challenge for us guys is that our risks have to be displayed through action, not words.  In recent times, I had a failure because I [...]

Ladyjargon: I don’t look that pretty today

Most man-focused relationship experts will always talk about ladyjargon that is common to every dating column.  My first few ladyjargon phrases are common ones, too.  A quick Google search of them shows thousands of links.  I feel that it’s also important to cover other things women say that are all definitely ladyjargon phrases, but ones [...]

Ladyjargon: You’re cute but you’re too smart

A Facebook reader sent me a private message about a recent situation where a woman he ran into recently who fed him a line that he instantly tagged as ladyjargon (good job, fair reader!).  She said:
“Oh, Kyle, you’re so handsome, but you’re also a genius, and that frightens me.”

Ladyjargon: Let’s take things slow

I love ladyjargon, but more than anything, I love the Facebook private messages I’ve been getting lately asking me very detailed questions about the relationship ruts some of you men are in.  It’s these very questions that keep my mind looking for new answers, and it is a pleasure to help transform a chicken-man into [...]

Ladyjargon: I’m not looking for a relationship right now

Ladyjargon can sometimes be spoken by men and women, but even terms that are used by both seem to be primarily used by women.  Recently I heard from two men that women they went out with a few times told them that they weren’t looking for a relationship right now.  Sadly, the men made the [...]

Delivering curiosity towards her life

One of the most mysterious things I’ve discovered in my dating life is the conundrum of mystery itself: a man who offers a woman mystery will be the only man that can get a high desire grade from that woman, and keep it there.  The conundrum is that one action a man can do to [...]

Romance versus Ownership

A regular reader of BAM here asked me a pretty strong question the other day: “I like all your logic in dealing with women, but what about romance?”  Ahh, romance!  Romance is the subject of all practically every women’s magazine cover (written by men), and every man I’ve ever talked to who likes women.  The [...]

Isn’t this just playing games?

I’ve heard something on occasion from women I’ve dated: “Why are you playing games with me?”  The proper answer to this question is always the same: laugh, and then say “I’m not playing games, I’m just giving you what you want from me.”  They’ll often disagree, but we’ll still date actively and happily and productively.

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