She wants to see you again! HALT.

So you’ve gone on a great first date, or maybe even a few dates.  You’ve followed all the rules without playing games: you delivered curiosity for her life, you’ve figured out that she has a high desire grade level towards you, she’s not pitching tentative dates to you but solid ones, it’s obvious that she [...]

Invited to a public event? Just say no.

A regular reader told me about something that happened to him recently:
A woman I dated previously seemed to be interested in me again, and she invited me to a public event she was hosting.  I decided to go, but tried to be more determined in making sure that she didn’t take me for granted.  I [...]

Hawk Virtue #1: Determination

From dictionary.com:
de ter mi na tion
1. a. The act of making or arriving at a decision.
b. The decision reached.
2. a. Firmness or purpose; resolve.
b. A fixed intention or resolution.
The number one virtue of the perfect Man, the Hawk, is determination.  Some prefer to call it confidence, but the word determination is much more accurate. Confidence [...]

B-level Desire Grade

When it comes to assessing a woman’s desire grade level towards you, we always want them to have an A-level desire grade for us, but at the very least they need to be in the B-level range.  Anything less than a B-level desire grade means the relationship is actually over, but she’s too guilty in [...]

Turning the cheek from a kiss: dealbreaker?

A regular Facebook reader, Phil, tells me about a first date he recently had:
I met a woman for a first date coffee.  She gave me all the good signs: touching my arm, flipping her hair, great eye contact.  After the coffee date, she proposed getting a drink closer to where she lives, and I accepted. [...]

Ladyjargon: I don’t look that pretty today

Most man-focused relationship experts will always talk about ladyjargon that is common to every dating column.  My first few ladyjargon phrases are common ones, too.  A quick Google search of them shows thousands of links.  I feel that it’s also important to cover other things women say that are all definitely ladyjargon phrases, but ones [...]

Ladyjargon: You’re cute but you’re too smart

A Facebook reader sent me a private message about a recent situation where a woman he ran into recently who fed him a line that he instantly tagged as ladyjargon (good job, fair reader!).  She said:
“Oh, Kyle, you’re so handsome, but you’re also a genius, and that frightens me.”

Ladyjargon: Let’s take things slow

I love ladyjargon, but more than anything, I love the Facebook private messages I’ve been getting lately asking me very detailed questions about the relationship ruts some of you men are in.  It’s these very questions that keep my mind looking for new answers, and it is a pleasure to help transform a chicken-man into [...]

Ladyjargon: I’m not looking for a relationship right now

Ladyjargon can sometimes be spoken by men and women, but even terms that are used by both seem to be primarily used by women.  Recently I heard from two men that women they went out with a few times told them that they weren’t looking for a relationship right now.  Sadly, the men made the [...]

Delivering curiosity towards her life

One of the most mysterious things I’ve discovered in my dating life is the conundrum of mystery itself: a man who offers a woman mystery will be the only man that can get a high desire grade from that woman, and keep it there.  The conundrum is that one action a man can do to [...]

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